The response from Glennon was beautiful and worth a read if this is something you are struggling with. She compares love to a river that flows, stating that mental illness, addiction, shame, and narcissism are all boulders that stop the flow of love. The overall message of the blog was that it was not up to the woman and her mother to remove the boulder but it was up to God and her to do that.
Some readers resonated with the message and commented with gratitude for the blog. Others who were still struggling with pain from the lack of love from their parents thought Glennon missed the point by saying that the parent's love exists but it could not get past the boulder.
There are people who have gone through severe abuse and neglect. No one deserves it. If you have and you are reading this, please know that it was not your fault. But if you have gone through it and you are still wounded or angry, you must be the one to take responsibility to heal. You must make the decision to love yourself enough to heal and to know that you are worthy of something different.
Holding onto anger or pain does not keep you safe. Vibrationally it creates and attracts more situations in your life to match that anger and pain. Forgiving those that hurt you is a way to love yourself. It gives you the freedom to create something new. It gives you the freedom to start living with peace and joy instead of pain. Forgiveness is not about you and the person that hurt you, but about you, God, and allowing yourself to be healed and whole.
There is a theory that before we come into this life we choose our parents based on the lessons we want to learn for soul growth. Choosing a difficult childhood with parents that withhold love can cause tremendous pain. It can also provide gifts such as independence, self love, and deep compassion for others for those who are willing to heal. It starts with loving yourself enough to allow it.